January 18, 2016
If you’ve been following the blog for any length of time, then you would know that The Weekend Wrap-Up makes it’s appearance every Monday morning, for the sake of ‘wrapping up the weekend’. However, if you saw the weather (in Bermuda!) this weekend, you would know that the conditions weren’t exactly ideal for doing much of anything, let alone photographing sessions! So, today, instead of sharing beautiful photographs of families, newborns or couples… I want to share something that has been on my heart.
I’m not sure if I’ve ever admitted this or not… but I’m a horrible comparer (er?). I compare my work, my business and sometimes even my life to others constantly, and it’s probably the most unhealthy, destructive and discouraging habit there is. And to be honest, I’m not even sure why I allow myself to think like this. It’s like I’m using other’s accomplishments as a scale to find out if I’m really doing enough. When really I should be cheering them on and excited for all that they have achieved. But instead we begin to compare. And friends, comparison is just down right rough. It’s crazy how we minimize our own achievements just based on what others are doing in their businesses. So many times I am guilty of this, and I hope I’m not alone.
As the end of the year came to a close and I began to map out my business goals for 2016, I knew that one of my priorities needed to be taking more time off to spend with Randy. Because it’s not healthy to spend every day trying to be an over achiever. Trying to conquer a daily to-do list is a great goal but sometimes we really just need to take a break from it all.
And so, this year I decide to stop comparison altogether. Because if we think about it truthfully, comparison is only going to make you grow slower. Every day it’s a constant battle for me, but I know that when I stop comparing myself to others, and focus on this business that we’ve been so blessed with, that’s when the good ideas come rolling in! When I stop looking at other people’s accomplishments, I start noticing how grateful I should be for where I am. And when I stop trying to be a workaholic over achiever, that’s when I get the most accomplished. And sometimes I think we just need to experience the freedom in being ourselves. The freedom to know that you have something to offer the world that no one else can!